A Celebrity You Don’t Like Has Died, Try Not To Be A Dick

On May 17, “weve lost” Chris Cornell, the lead singer of Soundgarden and Audioslave. A few weeks later, director Zack Snyder announced that he’d be stepping back from the reins of the Justice League movie in order to properly cope with the death of his daughter. And a few days after that, Roger Moore, best known for his role as James Bond in movies like The Man With The Golden Gun and The Spy Who Loved Me , passed away at 89.

And the internet managed this … largely well .

There was an outpouring of condolences for the families of Cornell and Moore, and for Snyder himself. Many of the posts I’ve considered are remarkably touching. Admittedly, it’s hard to know how to feel when a celebrity, or someone close to a celebrity, loses their life. You spend years watching them do interviews or create art, but despite how many Entertainment Tonight segments you absorb, you never really get a comprehend on who they are when the cameras are off. So, in lieu of any personal connection, the go-to route is to treat them like people. You show sympathy for them, because you understand how it feels to experience loss.

You don’t, however, use this as a platform to include a quick pop culture review in your eulogy.




You’ve probably seen it on whatever social media page you browse the most. Someone shares a news story about the person’s happen and above it, they write a few sentences about how terrible they feel. BUT FIRST they state, in no uncertain terms, that they are NOT a huge fan of that person. Or even if they are a fan, they’re not that big of a fan. Because patently you can’t be sincere about a tragic pop culture-related subject without injecting a bit of your inner Ebert. You can’t attend a funeral without attaining it clear that the deceased was just a fucking moron at their job. Because that would be lying, right? As we all know, a person’s mortal existence is valid if they render the Blu-rays we’re willing to buy.

Look, I get it. You likely assumed that the family of Roger Moore was desperate to know, while in the throes of the deepest suffering of “peoples lives”, how Moore ranked on your listing of Top 5 Best Performers To Play James Bond. That’s what’s truly important. Not the fact that Moore touched people’s lives with his charismatic, cucumber-cool performances or amiable offscreen personality, but that, while he was a James Bond, there were definitely superior James Bonds. It’s what you’d want for your demise, right? A celebration of your career, but also a little tidbit in the beginning about how a few cases of your peers were undoubtedly better. It’s never too late for constructive criticism.

As someone who writes about pop culture, I understand injecting my opinions of it where they don’t belong. I’ll light a few candles, put on some smooth music, and just as I espouse my spouse, I’ll catch myself whispering ” Jurassic Park III was underrated … ” into her ear. I lately brought soup to a sick friend and then, as is custom, I did an impromptu monologue about how overrated U2 is. I once insured a woman crying on the subway, and I held her hand, all the while explaining why the Twin Peaks revival was destined to fail. I only can’t help it.

However, to set it bluntly, if you’re opening your tender message to Zack Snyder with a review of Zack Snyder’s filmography, you’re doing it incorrect. Sneering at someone’s work doesn’t build you seem like a good person, merely because you’ve deigned to express sympathy for them after taking a big dump on their career. You’re not bridging the gap with someone by once again shitting on Batman V Superman in a tweet about how sorry you are for Snyder’s loss. You don’t need caveats. This is a situation where you should have shown kindness and nothing else, but for some reason, you imagined that you needed to make it clear that you in no way approved of Man Of Steel . Yes, it is a terrible onu having to keep your opinions to yourself for a couple minutes, but be a hero and try .

I know that we exist in a world where everyone is their own little social media squad. Everyone is desperate to keep up their brand, whether that brand is “trying to latch onto the weird humor thing that everyone seems to be into, and failing miserably at it” or “telling it like it is, all the time, because that’s simply who you are, #MAGA. ” It’s important to you. Mine is important to me. My Facebook cover photo is production art from the ‘6 0s Batman series because I gotta let these motherfuckers know what I’m about .

And I’m not smart enough to induce grand statements about the mentality of a wave of people who thought an actual demise would be a proper is high time to reveal their Two Thumbs Down rating of Octopussy . Too often, pieces come out that country things like “SHE TRIED TO GET A RETWEET FOR A SUBTWEET? NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER IN MILLENNIALS SOMETHING SOMETHING PHONES.” And it always reeks of some website’s Lifestyle editor being forced to quickly procure an online degree in Psychology while still keeping up with their designated “Write five posts this morning” schedule. Nothing good comes out of it.

But this is a rant I wanted to write, because I can’t ignore the dickishness of “Sorry for your loss, but … ” Look, I’m sure I’ve been this kind of dick before, and I’m sure you’re comprehending at honesty. I’m sure you probably actually was of the view that stab of understanding when someone you don’t know is hurting. But I’m also sure that you’re being a dick when “youre feeling” the need to foreword a message to a mourning person with a negative overview of their life’s run. So maybe don’t try it.

Maybe merely feel bad for people. That sounds doable.

Daniel has a blog and a Twitter .

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