There are so many things we want to say to all the guys out there who have ended relationships before they ever really started.
As difficult as it may be, we often refrain from speaking our minds in an attempt to uphold our dignity.
If youve experienced this, youve probably been left to question what exactly went wrong especially if you thought the feelings were mutual.
You know you shouldnt, but you cant help clinging onto that what if factor.
These heartbreaksarent any less disappointing each time we endure them, but we inevitably learn how to cope and move on.
Here are six ways to let go of the guy who ended things before they started.
1. Go on a social media detox.
Sometimes, we just need a little break to help us recharge.
Cleansing the mind by taking time away from social media is a great first step when you need to refocus (no matter what youre going through in life).
With your would-have-been-baes pictures and status updates no longer in your face every day, itll be so mucheasier to move forward with your life and focus on yourself.
2. Take a spontaneous vacation.
Call up your main girlfriends and plan a fun weekend getaway, or take a spontaneous trip to someplace youve never been before.
You deserve it, and youll have an amazingtime soaking up some rays with your booty parked in the sand, sipping on endless pia coladas. Let the good times roll, and forget all about your would-have-been-bae.
3. Keep on moving, and dont dwell on the past.
Many of us are firm believers in the whats meant to be, will be mentality, but we still cant help asking ourselves, Why couldnt this one just BE?
Whatever you do, dontwaste time dwelling on what could have been. Instead, focus onliving and thriving in the present.
Remind yourself ofall of the good things going on in your life, and keep moving forward because thats exactly what hes doing, too.
4. Vent to your girlfriends.
Dont keep any of those feelings bottled up.
Vent everything and anything to your friends, all while you guys enjoy bottles of fine wine and pints of chocolate peanut butter ice cream. Because, lets be honest: Theyve seen you at your best, theyve seen you at your worst and they know how to pull you out of any sort of funk.
5. Dont feel sorry for yourself.
Its so freaking easy to simply tell the world, Fuck off, because Im feeling sorry for myself.
Seriously, JUST DONT DO IT. Its not healthy, and youre certainly not doing yourself, or anyone else, any favors.
6. Remind yourself of how damn lucky you are.
Youre an extremely lucky chick, and honestly, this dude did you a favor.
Im not going to lie: YES, its disappointing AF, and YES, it feels really crummy to be so excited about a relationship in one moment, and watch it fizzle out into nothing in the next.
But, if this guy strung you along even further, made more promises he couldnt keep and still set you up for heartbreak, you would feel even more betrayed than you do now.
Recharge, refocus and only put yourself back out there when youre truly ready, because your well-being matters more than any guy ever will.